This Blog is dedicated to Bill Stanley who passed away last week. To show Kimber,Talcy, Kip and Parker how much he meant to all of us, please share your memories, thoughts and prayers. We won't forget you Bill.
I am so thankful for this opportunity to share my thoughts and condolences with the family of Dr. William Stanley. I am even more thankful though to have had such an amazingingly wonderful man for a doctor for the last 14 years. I started seeing Dr. Stanley when I was only 17 and have seen him regularly since. He was my first and only gynecologist. I was lucky enough to have him deliver my 8 year old daughter, Valerie, and I truly believe she is here with me because of him. He saved her life by diagnosing a pregnancy condition and performing surgery on me when I was 5 months pregnant which prevented me from having a miscarriage. I live 2 hours away from Bakersfield in Ridgecrest but never thought twice about making the drive to see Dr. Stanley, the drive was so worth it in order to have him for a doctor. Dr. Stanley was the most compassionate, caring, patient, and smart man I have ever met and I am honored to have known him and had him for my doctor. He always took his time with me as a patient and made me feel at ease. I truly cannot imagine ever going to another gynecologist because I know I will not find another one like Dr. Stanley. I am truly saddened by this tremendous loss. Heaven must have really needed an angel who loved helping and taking care of others, and I know heaven is a better place with Dr. Stanley there. My thoughts and prayers are with Kimber, and his cherished children. I can only imagine what a truly amazing father and husband he was considering what an amazingly kind man he was. I will forever miss him and be forever grateful for all that he has done for me over the the last 14 years. Thank you so much Dr. Stanley for everything! I will miss you always. V/r, Erin Ballinger Ridgecrest, CA
Dr. Stanley will be missed by so many of us. I will not only miss him as my Doctor but also as a former employer and friend. He always made me laugh and never made you feel nervous whether you were a patient or an employee. Kimber, Paula, and Marge please be strong and know that our thoughts and prayers are with all of you as well as your families at this time. Please know that we are all here for all you whenever you need us. Dr. Stanley was truly a gift from God, delivering his miracles as well as saving lives, and for that we are all gratefull for having the opportunaty to know him. Kelly Lank-Miller, Bakersfield, CA
Dr. Stanley was my doctor for 15 years and not only was he the best doctor I've ever had, but the kindest, most compassionate human being I've ever met. I don't now how I will ever find another gynocologist who I'll feel comfortable with. I am totally devastated and will miss him terribly. My deepest sympathy go out to his wife, children, family, and friends as I know this must be very difficult for you. I pray for God's comfort and strength for all of you during this time.
Dr. Stanley has been my Dr. for 13 years he was very kind and caring. He always took his time and talked with me to find out what was wrong, when I had test that came back positive he even called me back his self. I don't think I will ever find another gynecologist like that. Dr. Stanley will be missed very much. My thougts and payers go out to Kimber and the kids,also his staff we lost a great Dr. Dr. Stanley you will be missed greatly Kelly Schowengerdt Bakersfield, CA
My deepest condolences goes out to Dr. Stanley's family. He was the most wonderful doctor I ever had so I can only imagine the kind of father and husband he was. I was lucky enough to have him deliver my first baby five and a half years ago before he quit delivering and when I had to go to another doctor for the next two I realized how truely blessed I was to have had Dr. Stanley and his staff. He was the most caring, amazing, compassionate doctor I ever had and he is just irreplaceble. I will miss him tremendously. My thoughts and prayers are with his family. Angela Lee and Family (My husband thought he was GREAT too)
I met Bill when I was about 10 years old. My mom was good friends with he and Kimber and I ended up babysitting his 3 older children (Eric,Jonathan and Lauren) for many years. I was fortunate enough to go on many trips with his family and be treated as one of his own children. My fondest memories are of Catalina and the Stanley Steamer. He was a great man with a kind heart who was always so happy and very energetic. I think he was one of the smartest people I've ever known. His children were everything to him and he was such a great dad. Kimber and all of the children, you are in my thoughts. Brooke Bender Boston,MA
We would like to give our condolences to Dr. Stanley's family, and also to Paula, Marge, Patty and everyone else in the office! We, My mother and I have been going to Dr. Stanley for over 20 years, He also was my first and only gynecologist! We loved him very much, and will miss him terribly! I am so grateful to have just recently been in for my yearly checkup! I am so grateful I got to see him one last time! I will miss him walking in and saying How's baby girl, he called me that because he knew that my mom was in the next exam room waiting to be seen next, We would both make appointments to see him on the same day and at the same time! We would drive over from Taft and make a day of it, seeing our favorite Doctor! We would always leave talking about how much we loved him! And how sweet he was to us, he always made mom feel special too, she needed to have surgery other than female stuff, so he referred her to another Dr. but to make Mom feel at ease he told her he would be in the surgery room with her, and he was! that's what a great man he was! We will miss him! Always Mary Naff And Peggy Friesen
Dr. Stanley will be missed by so many people. He was just a really nice guy. I have worked with him for many, many years. There was nothing that could turn a day around like having him come in with his huge smile, saying "how are we all doing!" It was his easy going personality (and great surgical skills) that made me choose him as my doctor. Thank God that I did, he literally saved my life! My family and I will be eternally grateful to him. Our thoughts are with Kimber and the kids; it was evident in everything that he did that you all meant everything to him. Debbie Wilson and family.
Heaven must be a woderfull place,for all the sadness,sorrow,and pain jesus will erase.nothing will be there except joy and laughter, and his word says that heavens streets are pure as gold, and the brightest of it cannot be imagined or told. heavens chair will be singing god bless you Dr. Stanley and he will see god in all his glory, and he will hear his savior say u are home at last. But the most beautiful thing of all when we arrive at our heavenly place, is when we see our savior face to face.No beauty like his has ever been told and he will walk forever with him on those streets of gold.
Dr. Stanley i will miss u forever u were the greatest and i was so blessed to have u take care of me through these years.god bless your family in these hard times stay strong he loved u all so very much. My sincere and heartfelt prayers during this diffucult time. Denise Ross,2-11-08 4:11am
Dr. Stanley has been my doctor for over 22 year. I truly believe that he is responsible for the healthy births of my youngest two children. Without his care, concern, and medical knowledge I do not believe that either would be here.
He made himself available to watch over my other medical treatment, as an extra set of eyes and ears. When he saw something wasn’t just as he thought it should be, he let me know. He steered me in the right direction for the best medical care for me. He didn’t pull punches; he let me know what was going on with my health. That will be difficult, if not impossible, to replace.
Dr. Stanley made me feel comfortable and cared for. He never rushed through my visit, just to get to the next patient. I never felt upset if he was late to get to my appointment because he was at the hospital, because I am sure he was there several times on my account and someone else was waiting for him. Each of us was important to him, and we all knew it. I will miss him. Malise Unruh
I want to express my deepest condolences for the loss of Dr. Stanley. I consider myself very lucky to have been blessed to be a patient of his. He was always a gentle man with a smile on his face that would light up a room no matter what his mood might have been. He left such a lasting impression on me that when my daughter started her female cycle I only trusted him to treat her. Dr. Stanley diagnosed me with polycistic syndrome and was watching my daughter for the same signs. We are also from Ridgecrest and would enjoy our trips to Bakersfield just to see him because we knew he had only the best intentions for us in mind.
His presence leaves a void that cannot be filled. Thank you Mrs. Stanley and family for sharing Dr. Stanley with us. To help with this time of grief and sorrow always remember that there are only blessings and never losses.
Sincerely, Patricia "Trish" Modlinski Ridgecrest, CA
Dr. Stanley delivered my second son in 1986. I have a picture of Dr. Stanley holding Marc at our post delivery visit... Dr. Stanley did a great job helping me with a high risk delivery. I had a previous Caesarian and was attempting a vaginal birth. After pushing for four hours with Dr. Stanley at my side, we finally had to have a Caesarian. (Dr. Stanley had to stay at the hospital the entire time I was in labor) Dr. Stanley never gave up and gave me excellent advice and care throughout my labor and Caesarian delivery. Marc was born healthy and everything was fine thanks to Dr. Stanley's care and skill. Marc is now 21 years old. My prayers are for Dr. Stanley’s family and especially his children. May God bless them and may they know Him as their Heavenly Father.
Jolene (Ruth) Forzetting, mother of four
Sing to God, sing praises to His name; Lift up a song for Him who rides through the deserts, Whose name is the LORD, and exult before Him. A father of the fatherless and a judge for the widows, Is God in His holy habitation. Psalm 68:4-5
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction so that we will be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For just as the sufferings of Christ are ours in abundance, so also our comfort is abundant through Christ. But if we are afflicted, it is for your comfort and salvation; or if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which is effective in the patient enduring of the same sufferings which we also suffer; and our hope for you is firmly grounded, knowing that as you are sharers of our sufferings, so also you are sharers of our comfort. I Corinthians 1:3-7
Dr. Stanley was a rare man. Having him as my "primary care" physician was not only a blessing, but a privilege. He was the kindest, most compassionate, truly sincere and brilliant medical professional I have ever encountered. He always had a warm greeting and smile and sometimes a great joke or story to share - I was amazed, from day one, how completely comfortable he always made me feel. Dr. Stanley oversaw all of my health needs, occasionally referring me to "specialists" as he saw fit. Then he would "follow up" at my next visit with him to discuss any new protocol prescribed by another Dr. He always knew exactly what was going on with my health. Dr. Stanley not only cared for me with his vast medical knowledge and superb surgical skils, he also cared for me like a friend - never too busy to respond to an Email, always taking his time with an exam, answering my endless questions with patience and candor. His "bedside manner" was a gift that could never be taught or learned in school, it was simply Bill Stanley. My heart and prayers are with Kimber and the children he loved so much. Like you, I will miss him always. Sincerely, Julia Barrett-Watts Bakersfield, CA
My what a shock! I understood Dr. Stanley was a fitness person & worked out on his lunch hour. My condolences to Kimber (my torture lady - from electrolisis)& your children. I first met Dr. Stanley in 1987, 3 mo's preg & I wanted to come home to CA. A nurse asked me, which Dr do you want, Rbrt Redford or Superman? I chose Superman & he was, had super hero powers saving lives & making a difference in so many ways everyday. Nicole turns 20this Sunday. She used to be on his baby board long long ago, but he's delivered so many babies there's not enough room for them all. Most of the time I didn't have ins but he always made a way so I could pay. He was our only Dr. for about 15 yrs. 2005 I got ins, Kaiser temp until I could switch to PPO ins but Breast Cancer came 1st. & I couldn't switch back yet. I missed the trust of having him as our Dr. He was my surgeon a couple of times also, sometimes I would just call in for advice from him. As so many people said, he always had a smile & took the time & was present in the moment with you, he had a rare talent for listening & was easy going, & kind. I'm sure when you say "World's Best Dad", he was but he was also "World's Best Dr." too. Respectfully, Carrie Johnson & Nicole Miller
Kimber and family my deapest thoughts are with you at this time. It was just eight weeks ago that I lost my beloved Jill just as suddenly. I was pleasantly suprised when I received a call from Dr. Stanley to say that when Jill had visited him just days before that she was her usually spirted and lively self. That showed me that he was not just a good doctor but a thoughtful and caring person. It meant alot to our family that he took the time to call and remember Jill. During the days and weeks ahead know that he will forever be in your heart and in the spirit of your children. God bless each of you. Ted Davis, Danielle Davis, Lathen
Thank you for giving me this opportunity to express my condolences to your family. My husband and I are deeply greatful for all that Dr. Stanley did for us. We now have a family of three beautiful children that would not have been possible without his expertise, guidance, skill and patience.
After 3 years of no luck, Dr. Stanley figured out a way for me to get pregnant. His skill as a surgeon and his kind demeanor truly helped to create my family.
I would like his family to know, especially his children, that your husband and dad really made a difference in this world and my family's life.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart. He will be deeply missed, but NEVER FORGOTTEN.
I met Dr. Stanley some years ago when I worked in the recovery room. I remember he ALWAYS had a smile on his face or a funny joke to tell. He was one of our "favorite" docs. He was compassionate, kind and very easy going. Dr. Stanley could always cheer me up if I was having a rough day. I looked forward to seeing him and taking care of his patients. He was an amazing person and a great surgeon. I remember he talked endlessly about how much he loved his wife and kids and how much they all enjoyed traveling to the central coast. He will be greatly missed by all who knew him. My heart goes out to his family....he was loved by many.
I met Dr. Stanley in 1989, when my family and I moved to Bakersfield. He has been my Dr ever since. He was the best. His bedside manner was wonderful and he always made me smile. My thoughts and prayers are with Kimber, his kids, Paula, Patty, and Marge. Dr. Stanley you will truly be missed. God Bless you. Jill Adams Bakersfield
I met Bill and Kimber around 17 years ago when we all ran with the Hash House Harriers. Bill was the one with the bright colored running shorts and fanny-pack around his waist. The pack carried his pager in case he needed to leave the group to deliver a baby or tend to a patient; which happened several times. Bill could lag behind to talk to someone but when it was time to find the running trail he could bolt to the front with ease. He always seemed to be smiling and was great fun to be around. I think the thing that strikes me the most about him was how unpretentious and down-to-earth he was. A rare quality for someone so accomplished. My thoughts are with you and the kids, Kimber. I know you will always miss him dearly. He loved you so much. On-On, Bill.
I worked for Dr Stanley in the early 80's when he and I were both new to Bakersfield. To this day, that job was my absolute favorite, and one I never dreaded going to! Bill was the nicest boss I have ever had, and was so FUN to work with and be around. He treated me and my family like his family, and included us in many adventures...swimming, skiing and boating.
Leaving that job and the Bakersfield area was hard, as I knew I would never have another job or boss like him! Each day as his employee and friend, and patient, was truly a joy! Though I only knew Eric and Jonathan, my thoughts and prayers are with all his children and with Kimber. I'll continue to cherish the memories....God Bless you all! Lindy (Rumburg) Wiens, RN, Hillsboro Kansas
When my husband was reading the Sunday newspaper he suddenly blurted out in dismay, "Our Dr. passed away!" Of course I was totally confused not knowing who he was referring to since neither one of us have regular Doctor. My husband clarified that it was Dr. Stanley, who was our absolute most favorite Doctor that delivered our first and second babies. My husband went to every appointment with me and we both loved chatting with Dr. Stanley. He had such a great personality and made 'our' pregnancies a whole lot of fun. Not only did he affect my life, by the way my husband reacted with the sad news and called him "our" doctor, Dr. Stanley obviously touched his life, as well. One of my deliveries was in the middle of the night. I just BARELY made it to Mercy SW in the nick of time and within a matter of minutes, Dr. Stanely arrived sporting his pajamas, slippers and the BIGGEST grin. I'll never forget the moment he wisked into the room, ready for action. We got such a kick out of that!! We were SOOO disappointed when we had to find a different delivery doctor after Dr. Stanley retired from delivering. I have had two more children since then and am expecting another in September. I have NEVER bonded with any of the other doctors that I have tried after his retirement and the whole pregnancy/delivery thing just isn't the same. It is simply not as fun and exciting without Dr. Stanley. He was something else! So kind, gentle, humble, pleasant,classy, sincere, professional, funny and unique. Definatley, one of a kind! Our deepest sorrow goes to his family. He expressed to us during many of our chit-chats how much his family meant to him. As we look back at our 'baby' books/pictures and see his triumphant, smiling face as he is holding up our NEW babies (still connected by the umbilical cords), we will cherish that spectacular moment even more. We were truly blessed to have him in our lives for that period time. Now he is lighting up heaven even more, I am certain. We will all miss him dearly and once again, our deepest sympathy to his beloved family. Wendy and Larry Montanio Jack Montanio (7) Melody- Eve Montanio (5)
I was very sad to hear of the recent death of Dr. Stanley. He delivered my two children, who are now 24 and 22 years old. He meant alot to me. He was suach a kind Doctor, and was right there with me during my deliveries. He will be greatly missed. My prayers are with his family.
We were so sad to hear of the loss of Dr. Stanley. In 1984, we lost our first daughter at birth. Dr. Stanley's compassionate and friendly nature helped us get through our loss. He took extra precautions to make sure everything went well when we were expecting our next child. He delivered our next two daughters and we too have pictures of him holding them shortly after their births. They are now 22 and 20 years old, and we thank him everyday for them. He was a good friend, doctor, and all around great person. Our prayers go out to his family. We will miss his smile and his great sense of humor. The world has lost a truly great man. Toy and Pam Magness Bakersfield, Ca.
I can remember the very first time I met Dr. Stanley. I was having a lot of problems. I was 20 and afraid. I was sitting on the exam table in that wonderful exam gown when he walked in. I thought to myself " Who is he, what is he doing here where is the Doctor!" He was much younger that I expected. He introduced himself to me, was very kind and caring. My fear went away within seconds. He was my doctor from that moment on. That was 22 years ago.
I went through a lot those first 12 years. A lot of surgeries. He did all the work of course :) He was there with me every step of the way. He always had a positive attitude. Even when he would tell me something I did not want to hear, he had a way of making it alright. He not only healed me medically, he helped me mentally too.
I trusted him with my life. Not only mine, but the life of my younger sister, Paulette Engle. She was his patient for 18 years.
Dr. Stanley had a charm about him. Always kind, laughing, friendly and caring. He would call me personally a lot of times to answer a question or check up on me after surgeries. When I was in the office, he always took his time, he was never rushed. We would talk about what was happening in my life and in his. He loved Kimber and the kids so much. You could see his eyes light up when he would talk about them.
My heart ached and I cried when I heard about his passing. I will miss his hugs, his smiles, his laugh and our talks. To me, Dr. Stanley was the Worlds Best Doctor and my friend. I am proud to say that he was my Doctor. Thank you Dr. Stanley for everything you have done for me and my family. I will miss you and I will never forget you.
Dr. Stanley was such a gentle, wonderful doctor. I loved how he referred to us, patients, as "my ladies". He performed two surgeries on me in recent years and was very patient and caring. He was the first doctor my daughter saw and she would drive from Long Beach for appt. We will miss him. Our condolences and prayers to wife and children.
It is now 6 in the am and today is the day we will all come together to celebrate our awesome friend and Doctor.I look out my window and the sun is just starting to shine. I know God planned this day just for Bill to be a beautiful day for Him and all of us.I promised Kimber I would say something at the church or on this amazing blog. So Kimber here goes... I am so amazed how so many people have told of Bill's kindness, compassion and the way he made us all feel so important. He took so much time with all of us. Like he didn't have anything more important than to spent as much time as WE needed when we were in his exam room on those wonderful exam tables !!! I met Bill about 30 years ago. My first thoughts of him when he walked in the room was: he's so cute! Kinda reminded me of a Jerry Lewis kind of guy.. His eyes shined and his smile lit up the room.And those glasses. Over the years he always had the coolest and funniest glasses. And the way he dressed. He looked like a model from GQ magazine.And I KNOW he was very proud of it !!!
On my first visit I was very scared because of some childhood experiences.He sat me in his office an talked to me for over 2 hrs. He understood my apprehension and for the first time in my life I really felt safe.Everything went ok with the exam.He was so thoughtful and patient and would tell he everything he was doing and asked several times if I was doing alright.That day we instantly became friends. He called me several times to make sure I was ok. And I could honestly for the first time say yes... There were so many different Bill's I got to know and love.Today I would like to share with you the Bill Stanley I knew and loved. Dr.Stanley was more than just a Dr to me.There are several words that come instantly to mine,DR..friend, crazy man, geek & nerdy, funny, an amazing husband to his "Princess" Kimber.A dad anyone would be excited and blessed to have.His face would shine when he would talk about his family.It was an amazing thing to see.It sounds like from the blog that alot of people saw this special side of him..Especially the way he made us ALL feel important and special.He was so truthful & spiritual in such a quiet and gentle way. He was so in touch with his emotional side & was comfortable with that amazing quality.He could almost read your mind at times.It was an amazing gift he had.As a DR. the most important thing that comes to my mind is "He didn't just treat your parts" he was genuinely concerned about your whole being. He cared deeply about your family and especially how we were doing emotionally. He would give you his insight and wisdom. I cherish that the most because I think he saved alot of people from alot of heartache, kid problems, you name it and I'm sure someone out there confided in him and he took the time to give advise or help you. If he didn't know an answer for healing your parts or your personal stuff he would research the hell out of it and try to find an answer or a way to just help.I know for a fact that he would spend hours finding the best and newest thing, newest research to help any patient or friend he didn't have an answer for.Sometimes there were no answers, sometimes he had to tell us things we didn't want to hear,he told us gently and with genuine caring.You just had to look into his eyes and see the love and compassion he had. I'll never forget those eyes ,so full of love yet sometimes filled with such sadness when he couldn't find an answer for your problem.You knew he would NEVER stop trying to find a way to help. He never gave up on you... There is so much more that I could say so I'll end with this. Bill knew he had a condition with his heart.I think he probably knew the risks and even perhaps that he could die from it.But he still allowed himself to follow his passion and he lived his life to the fullest. He believed love was the answer to all the ills of life and he shared it with all of us special ones. His family was most important to him..What a Gift from God his family has recieved.Know that He will always be around you he will always be in your heart.I'd like to end with a poem I found many years ago.Last night I found it stuffed in my bible.It's called ONE MORE DAY "I am a Father" We persist like an echo Even after the sound is gone...
And when do you hear an echo? When it's quiet... And when it's quiet ,you will be able to hear me too... I'll always be RIGHT here in your heart...
Bill, I will never stop loving and will never forget you.You are in a special place inside my heart.I know I'll hear you again.When it's quiet. I Know I will hear the echo!!!! So when we are missing our dear friend Bill,stop & be still and quiet.You'll never know when you'll hear an echo...
WE love you Kimber..And kids don't ever forget how much your Dad loved and cherished you...Thanks for this opportunity to share..Kimber know that there are so many people here who love you.If you need anything you know where we are... Love, Nancy
Kimber, I had gotten back from a small getaway to see and hear of your loss. I am so sorry, and want you to know you are in our prayers. I also want you to know I have always thought you were one of the nicest ladies I have ever known, your kids will need your strength and love. I wish there was something more I could say or do the most I can do is say we love you and if you need anything email me sheldon@acreativegroup.com
I first went to Dr. Stanley more than 15 years ago, looking for relief from surgery related problems. He was patient and compassionate; working with me to slowly overcome those problems. Since then, he became my primary physician, directing me to one of his colleagues whenever it was appropriate. Visiting his office was like visiting family. He was both wise and caring, often sharing kind words after the untimely death of my beloved husband, at age 47. I send prayers of love and strength to Kinber, his children, and to his entire family. I know you will feel a gigantic loss. Our community, also, loses one of it's most capable and caring physicians. Thank you, Dr. Stanley.Chere.
I did not want the opportunity to pass to tell everyone about my love for Dr. Stanley. I have known him for 20 years and feel so blessed to have worked for him for the last 10 years. I started as front office help but when Patti left I assumed her position. Patti and Dr. had worked together for many years and I had big shoes to fill. He made me feel comfortable and was always patient with me and soon I knew what everyone else did, he was a great and caring Dr. and friend. Not only was he my employer, he was my personal doctor. I never thought about seeing anyone else. How do I express how much I will miss him? I did leave his office in December of 2007 but it was the hardest, saddest decision I have had to make. He understood my reasons for leaving and supported my decision. Dr. Stanley had many interests but his priorities were his family and his patients. I called him often in the middle of the night to give him messages from patients and hospitals and he was instantly awake and ready with answers or he would make the call back himself. I just wanted you all to know that the man you met in the office was genuine and he cared for all his patients. I, like all of you feel lost without his guidance. My family will always remember him at my 30th anniversary party, Susan's wedding and numerous birthday parties. I know I am rambling on but when I write something I then remember something else I would like to say. I miss all of his patients and want you to know we will maintain the paulakpt@yahoo.com email address if you want to contact us. Paula
MY NAME IS CINDY, AND I WOULD LIKE TO BEGIN BY THANKING KIMBER, AND ALL OF THE FAMILY, FOR ALLOWING US TO BE HERE TODAY, AND TO BE ABLE TO HONOR THIS INCREDIBLE MAN.
I HAVE CHERISHED MEMORIES OF 'WILLIAM STANLEY, M.D.', MY DOCTOR, ‘BILL' MY FRIEND, AND EVERYONE’S ‘SUPERMAN’
I MET DR. STANLEY AT LEAST 26 YEARS AGO, AND HE’S BEEN MY PHYSICIAN EVER SINCE. WHEN I FIRST MET HIM, HE LOOKED AS HANDSOME AS CLARK KENT, AND THROUGHOUT THE YEARS, SHOWED ME THE STRENGTH AND CAPABILITY OF ‘SUPERMAN’.
HE HAD BEEN WITH ME EVERY STEP OF THE WAY, GUIDING & PROTECTING ME THROUGH MEDICAL FEARS AND CONCERNS, & SURGERIES THAT I NEEDED TO HAVE.
I HAVE ALWAYS HAD THE UTMOST OF TRUST & CONFIDENCE IN HIM, KNOWING IN MY HEART, HE WOULD ALWAYS ACT IN MY BEST INTEREST.
I ALWAYS HELD HIM IN VERY HIGH ESTEEM, AND FORTUNATELY, TOOK THE OPPORTUNITIES TO LET HIM KNOW HOW I EXPERIENCED HIM.
AS A PHYSICIAN, HE GAVE OF HIMSELF IN EVERY WAY POSSIBLE, AND TRULY SERVED AS A ROLE MODEL IN HIS PROFESSION.
HE ALWAYS GAVE ME AS MUCH TIME AS I NEEDED, TO TALK WITH HIM. HE WAS A WONDERFUL LISTENER.
HE ALWAYS OFFERED SUPPORT, GUIDANCE, AND PERSPECTIVE; ALWAYS ALLOWING ME TO FEEL RESPECTED AS HIS PATIENT, AND ENCOURAGED BY WHATEVER SITUATION MIGHT HAVE AROSE.
AS A NURSE, I ADMIRED HIS KNOWLEDGE AND HIS NEVER-ENDING QUEST FOR OPTIONS & ANSWERS.
IT WAS SO OBVIOUS TO ME, THAT HE ENJOYED WHAT HE DID, AND HAD AN INCREDIBLE PASSION FOR HIS WORK, AND A TRUE COMMITMENT TO HIS PATIENTS.
WHAT I ADMIRED MOST ABOUT DR. STANLEY, WAS HIS ABILITY TO BE PROFESSIONAL & SERIOUS WHEN HE NEEDED TO BE, AND AT THE SAME TIME, ALLOWED HIMSELF TO BE VULNERABLE AS A HUMAN BEING, NOT BEING SHY ABOUT HIS THOUGHTS AND EMOTIONS. I ADMIRED HIS INTEGRITY & HUMILITY.
I WAS CONVINCED, THAT THERE WASN'T A TOPIC THAT HE COULDN'T CONVERSE ABOUT.
HIS SMILE & HIS SENSE OF HUMOR WERE CONTAGIOUS. I COULDN'T HELP, BUT FEEL CARED FOR, AND VERY AMUSED AT LIFE, WHEN I WAS IN HIS PRESENCE.
I CAN ONLY HOPE THAT I WAS ABLE TO BRING JOY INTO HIS LIFE, AS HE HAD IN MINE. IT'S HARD TO PUT INTO WORDS, HOW MUCH I WILL MISS THIS MAN.
I CAN SAY, THAT I CONSIDER MYSELF, ONE OF THE 'LUCKY ONES' TO HAVE HAD THE OPPORTUNITY AND THE HONOR, TO HAVE HAD HIM IN MY LIFE, AS LONG AS I DID.
MY HUSBAND, ALAN, ACCOMPANIED ME TO MANY VISITS WITH DR. STANLEY. HE ALWAYS SHOWED ALAN SO MUCH RESPECT, NOT ONLY AS MY HUSBAND, BUT AS SOMEONE WHO WOULD READILY PARTICIPATE IN MY CARE AND DECISION MAKING.
ALAN HAS TOLD ME ON SO MANY OCCASIONS, HOW MUCH HE ADMIRED DR. STANLEY AND HOW GRATEFUL HE FELT TO HAVE HIM IN OUR LIVES. I KNOW HE WILL MISS HIM A LOT.
ON BOTH A SERIOUS AND HUMOROUS NOTE: I HAVE BEEN WONDERING- HOW AM I GOING TO GET THROUGH MENOPAUSE WITHOUT THIS MAN IN MY LIFE? I KNOW MY HUSBAND, IS ALSO WONDERING HOW HE WILL GET THROUGH 'MY' MENOPAUSE, AS WELL.
WE WERE JUST BEGINNING TO HAVE THOSE TALKS ABOUT HORMONE REPLACEMENT THERAPY. I KNEW THERE WOULD BE MANY 'GO-AROUNDS' REGARDING THIS TOPIC.
BEING HE HAS SEEN ME THROUGH SO MANY PHASES AND TRANSITIONS IN MY LIFE, I KNOW IN MY HEART, HE LITERALLY KNEW ME BOTH 'INSIDE AND OUT.'
EVEN THOUGH, HE IS NOT WITH ME PHYSICALLY, IN PERSON, I WILL CONTINUE TO ALLOW HIS WISDOM TO GUIDE ME, BECAUSE HE WILL ALWAYS HAVE A SPECIAL PLACE IN MY THOUGHTS, & IN MY HEART.
I WANT TO SAY TO KIMBER, HIS CHILDREN, AND ALL OF HIS FAMILY- "ALWAYS CHERISH THE LOVE & MEMORIES THAT 'BILL' HAS GIVEN TO YOU. I PRAY THAT IN TIME, THESE MEMORIES WILL BRING YOU A LOT OF WARMTH & COMFORT."
I WOULD LIKE TO THANK DR. STANLEY'S VERY DEDICATED OFFICE STAFF, PATTY, PAULA, AND MARGE, FOR ALWAYS BEING THERE FOR ME. I ALWAYS FELT, THAT ALL OF YOU WERE AN EXTENSION OF HIS LOVE, PROFESSIONALISM, WARMTH AND COMPASSION.
I AM CERTAIN, THAT HE WILL FOREVER, CONTINUE TO IMPACT & INFLUENCE SO MANY OF HIS PATIENTS, FRIENDS & COLLEAGUES AS A 'SHINING' EXAMPLE, OR IN HIS WORDS, 'THE GOLD STANDARD.'
THANK YOU BILL, FOR TOUCHING MY LIFE IN SO MANY WONDERFUL WAYS, & FOR THE PRIVILEGE OF BEING ABLE TO KNOW YOU. I WILL ALWAYS MISS YOU.
Dr. Stanley was my doctor for 10years, he was the kindest, most compassionate person I've ever met. I came to him with overwhelming problems and he wasted no time at all resolving them, what a doctor! He delivered my first grandson and my daughter thought the world of him. I don't know if I will ever find another gynocologist who I'll feel as comfortable with. I am going to miss him terribly. My deepest sympathy go out to his wife, children, family, and friends as I know this must be very difficult for you. I pray for God's love comforts them this time. Sincerely, P.Scovil Bakersfield, CA
Iam here in Dr Stanleys officepacking up the final items. His desk is no longer here and it is now that it becomes so real that he is gone forever. It was a joy to come into work with dr stanley, he was so caring and devoted to his patients and that ressonated throughtout the office. I will miss all his patients and working with Paula, Patti, Hiedi, and Beck. He has left us with many good memories. DR Stanley wore many hats for me. He was my dr of course, delivered my son, Mitch. My employer and teacher, but my deepest loss ls that he was the father of my grandchildren,THE BEST FATHER, a loving and pacient husband to my daughter kimber, mama lama. He was the most increadable son-in-law a mother could ask for. My heart breaks for Kimber,Parker,Talcy,and Kip and I pray that God gives them the strenght and guides them along as they make this hard journey in life ahead. For all the lives he touched there will be a deep void and loss. I respected Bill so much as a DR and a person and he will forever be in my heart and my memories. I miss you DR. Stanley, Bill, Billie, and friend. love, the granma lama ---Marge ===== I also will maintain my e-mail add. margekpt@yahoo.com
I have been seeing Dr.Stanley for 22 years and when i heard of his passing i was in shock.Dr.Stanley was such a wonderful doctorand man.He had a great bedside manner,you could tell him women problems that you were having and he acted like he knew exactly what you were going through.Dr Stanley delivered both of my kids as well as my sisters kids.When my daught started going to him i had asked Dr. Stanley what is was like to see patient that he delivered,he said it makes him feel old,although he looks like he did 22 years ago.Dr Stanley will be missed by me and my whole family.My thought and prayers go out to his family and staff.thank you for sharing him with us...cindy
First and foremost I want to talk about "my friend" Bill. I have known Bill and Kimber for over 19 years. My husband has been friends with Kimber since high school. Bill was a blast! I remember years ago rollerblading with Bill and Kimber. HA! Bill was in his spandex workout pants and a tank top looking pretty hot. Bill really did have a killer body. Really Bill and Kimber looked like Ken and Barbie. But he was about as good at stopping on rollerblades as I was. NOT! He would crash into a car, lightpost or whatever was closest. Just like me. Not Kimber, she would twirl around on those things and stop like no problem. What's the big deal? :)
I remember all of the CRAZY parties at their Stockdale Estates home. God those were great times.
Over the years I gave Bill many haircuts in the utility room in that house.
Okay, driving around in the PARTY VAN! You know, the 4 wheel drive one. It had the loudest stereo!!! Bill was such a kid at heart. He was all about having a great time and did!
I remember summers with Bill's oldest kids there. He loved his kids so much. He would absolutely light up when he talked about them. And such beautiful kids.
In more recent years our kids attended the same elementary school. I always made sure I found Bill and Kimber at Open House's and Fund Raisers. He never missed a Jog-a-Thon day or a Musical Performance. Both Bill and Kimber were always there supporting their kids and their school. Bill was a very dedicated and proud Dad.
He loved technology and toys. He always had the latest greatest pager, cell phone, computers and gadgets. Can you say "computer geek"!
Okay, now on to Bill my "Doctor". When he passed away, I felt pretty lost. Bill has been my primary, gyno, and ob Doctor. He pretty much took care of everything from top to bottom.
Kimber and I laugh and say that Bill spoke "Chick". He just "got" women. He understood how we thought. When he asked a question, he actually listened to the answer. He heard you. He genuinely cared about us. He knew the importance of taking time for myself and always reminded me to do that.
The more I read the blog, the more I realize he was pretty amazing for a lot of people. I had total confidence in Bill and referred over the years many of my friends to him.
My husband and I had several years of difficulty getting pregnant. When we finally got pregnant, we miscarried. It was pretty awful. Bill was there every step of the way including doing a surgery to take care of me afterwards. We got pregnant again and had a healthy baby girl. But not before getting really sick during the pregnancy with gallbladder disease. I had to have gallbladder surgery 8 months pregnant. He was with me during surgery, just in case he was needed for the baby. After I delivered her, I had some epidural complications. It was Bill who called and checked on me. It was Bill who had me come in so he could personally make sure everything was healing properly.
Really Bill knew all of my secrets. Always had good advice. And a caring shoulder to lean on. I used to make him laugh because I would never used medical terms to describe what was going on with me. I just kind of blurted it out. He would crack up.
He delivered both of my girls now 9 and 6. He brought into this world the 2 most precious children I could imagine. He helped me get pregnant when I couldn't and he helped keep me pregnant when my body couldn't. For that I am eternally grateful.
He has helped me through deliveries, post pardom depression and many other day to day issues.
Over the last probably 5 years Bill tried talking me into weight loss surgery. I finally did it in Oct. I have lost 60 lbs. since then. I hate that I can't continue to share that with Bill. He was my biggest cheerleader. I knew that Bill wanted that for me. He knew it would change my life. I loved walking into the office and surprising them when they hadn't seen me in a few weeks.
Kimber is one of my favorite people. I have always been able to say anything to her, there isn't any subject we couldn't talk about. It may be 2 weeks or 2 months since we last talked, but when we do, we just pick right up where we left off. I treasure you Kimber.
Kimber, Parker, Talcy and Kip. Hold onto your memories. And what a gift all of the pictures Bill took. You all have always been so good to take lots of pictures.
In my search for a new Doctor I think I'm going to have to lower my standards a little. I can't imagine anyone who can fill Dr. Bill's shoes.
But most of all, I grieve because I miss my friend. I'm sad for my friend Kimber and her beautiful kids. And I'm so sorry for Erik, John and Lauren's loss.
Bill was an intelligent, warm, caring, fun man. I will miss him dearly.
BROOKE BENDER if you see this please e-mail me. I don't know if you remember me, but I did you and your Mom's nails for years. I would love to catch up with you. Amy Church jachurch@sbcglobal.net
Since I moved to CO in 1997, I have kept in contact with my friend & former workout buddy. Sometimes, 6 or 9 mths would pass between e-mails, maybe even a year, but I would usually shoot him an e-mail, giving him the latest and greatest news of my life in CO. He would sometimes send a quick 2 or 3 liner back, with something like, "good to hear from you". The last few times I have written, however, I never heard back. I didn't think much of it because it wasn't that unusual (sometimes I'd hear back from him, sometimes I wouldn't). Recently, however, I haven't been able to get him out of my head. The feeling was so strong today that I found myself on the internet to confirm his address, thinking that perhaps he had changed his address. Oh my!! You can imagine my shock. I am just devastated, three years later. Kimber, my heart goes out to your beautiful family. My goodness, I remember when you two were just dating----I'm just flooded with memories, too much to tell. We all just loved to sweat together, didn't we?! :-) Bill was such a good person. Now I know why I couldn't stop thinking about him--an angel was with me today. I love you Kimber and sincerely hope you're doing well. XXOO Vickie Miller Parker formerly, Vickie Roland
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I am so thankful for this opportunity to share my thoughts and condolences with the family of Dr. William Stanley. I am even more thankful though to have had such an amazingingly wonderful man for a doctor for the last 14 years. I started seeing Dr. Stanley when I was only 17 and have seen him regularly since. He was my first and only gynecologist. I was lucky enough to have him deliver my 8 year old daughter, Valerie, and I truly believe she is here with me because of him. He saved her life by diagnosing a pregnancy condition and performing surgery on me when I was 5 months pregnant which prevented me from having a miscarriage. I live 2 hours away from Bakersfield in Ridgecrest but never thought twice about making the drive to see Dr. Stanley, the drive was so worth it in order to have him for a doctor. Dr. Stanley was the most compassionate, caring, patient, and smart man I have ever met and I am honored to have known him and had him for my doctor. He always took his time with me as a patient and made me feel at ease. I truly cannot imagine ever going to another gynecologist because I know I will not find another one like Dr. Stanley. I am truly saddened by this tremendous loss. Heaven must have really needed an angel who loved helping and taking care of others, and I know heaven is a better place with Dr. Stanley there. My thoughts and prayers are with Kimber, and his cherished children. I can only imagine what a truly amazing father and husband he was considering what an amazingly kind man he was. I will forever miss him and be forever grateful for all that he has done for me over the the last 14 years. Thank you so much Dr. Stanley for everything! I will miss you always.
V/r,
Erin Ballinger
Ridgecrest, CA
Dr. Stanley will be missed by so many of us. I will not only miss him as my Doctor but also as a former employer and friend. He always made me laugh and never made you feel nervous whether you were a patient or an employee. Kimber, Paula, and Marge please be strong and know that our thoughts and prayers are with all of you as well as your families at this time. Please know that we are all here for all you whenever you need us. Dr. Stanley was truly a gift from God, delivering his miracles as well as saving lives, and for that we are all gratefull for having the opportunaty to know him. Kelly Lank-Miller, Bakersfield, CA
Dr. Stanley was my doctor for 15 years and not only was he the best doctor I've ever had, but the kindest, most compassionate human being I've ever met. I don't now how I will ever find another gynocologist who I'll feel comfortable with. I am totally devastated and will miss him terribly. My deepest sympathy go out to his wife, children, family, and friends as I know this must be very difficult for you. I pray for God's comfort and strength for all of you during this time.
Debra Campbell-Wingerden
Lake Isabella
Dr. Stanley has been my Dr. for 13 years he was very kind and caring. He always took his time and talked with me to find out what was wrong, when I had test that came back positive he even called me back his self. I don't think I will ever find another gynecologist like that. Dr. Stanley will be missed very much. My thougts and payers go out to Kimber and the kids,also his staff we lost a great Dr. Dr. Stanley you will be missed greatly
Kelly Schowengerdt
Bakersfield, CA
My deepest condolences goes out to Dr. Stanley's family. He was the most wonderful doctor I ever had so I can only imagine the kind of father and husband he was. I was lucky enough to have him deliver my first baby five and a half years ago before he quit delivering and when I had to go to another doctor for the next two I realized how truely blessed I was to have had Dr. Stanley and his staff. He was the most caring, amazing, compassionate doctor I ever had and he is just irreplaceble. I will miss him tremendously. My thoughts and prayers are with his family. Angela Lee and Family (My husband thought he was GREAT too)
I met Bill when I was about 10 years old. My mom was good friends with he and Kimber and I ended up babysitting his 3 older children (Eric,Jonathan and Lauren) for many years. I was fortunate enough to go on many trips with his family and be treated as one of his own children. My fondest memories are of Catalina and the Stanley Steamer. He was a great man with a kind heart who was always so happy and very energetic. I think he was one of the smartest people I've ever known. His children were everything to him and he was such a great dad.
Kimber and all of the children, you are in my thoughts.
Brooke Bender
Boston,MA
We would like to give our condolences to Dr. Stanley's family, and also to Paula, Marge, Patty and everyone else in the office! We, My mother and I have been going to Dr. Stanley for over 20 years, He also was my first and only gynecologist! We loved him very much, and will miss him terribly! I am so grateful to have just recently been in for my yearly checkup! I am so grateful I got to see him one last time! I will miss him walking in and saying How's baby girl, he called me that because he knew that my mom was in the next exam room waiting to be seen next, We would both make appointments to see him on the same day and at the same time! We would drive over from Taft and make a day of it, seeing our favorite Doctor! We would always leave talking about how much we loved him! And how sweet he was to us, he always made mom feel special too, she needed to have surgery other than female stuff, so he referred her to another Dr. but to make Mom feel at ease he told her he would be in the surgery room with her, and he was! that's what a great man he was! We will miss him! Always Mary Naff And Peggy Friesen
Dr. Stanley will be missed by so many people. He was just a really nice guy. I have worked with him for many, many years. There was nothing that could turn a day around like having him come in with his huge smile, saying "how are we all doing!" It was his easy going personality (and great surgical skills) that made me choose him as my doctor. Thank God that I did, he literally saved my life! My family and I will be eternally grateful to him. Our thoughts are with Kimber and the kids; it was evident in everything that he did that you all meant everything to him. Debbie Wilson and family.
Heaven must be a woderfull place,for all the sadness,sorrow,and pain jesus will erase.nothing will be there except joy and laughter, and his word says that heavens streets are pure as gold, and the brightest of it cannot be imagined or told. heavens chair will be singing god bless you Dr. Stanley and he will see god in all his glory, and he will hear his savior say u are home at last. But the most beautiful thing of all when we arrive at our heavenly place, is when we see our savior face to face.No beauty like his has ever been told and he will walk forever with him on those streets of gold.
Dr. Stanley i will miss u forever u were the greatest and i was so blessed to have u take care of me through these years.god bless your family in these hard times stay strong he loved u all so very much. My sincere and heartfelt prayers during this diffucult time.
Denise Ross,2-11-08 4:11am
Dr. Stanley has been my doctor for over 22 year. I truly believe that he is responsible for the healthy births of my youngest two children. Without his care, concern, and medical knowledge I do not believe that either would be here.
He made himself available to watch over my other medical treatment, as an extra set of eyes and ears. When he saw something wasn’t just as he thought it should be, he let me know. He steered me in the right direction for the best medical care for me. He didn’t pull punches; he let me know what was going on with my health. That will be difficult, if not impossible, to replace.
Dr. Stanley made me feel comfortable and cared for. He never rushed through my visit, just to get to the next patient. I never felt upset if he was late to get to my appointment because he was at the hospital, because I am sure he was there several times on my account and someone else was waiting for him. Each of us was important to him, and we all knew it. I will miss him. Malise Unruh
I want to express my deepest condolences for the loss of Dr. Stanley. I consider myself very lucky to have been blessed to be a patient of his. He was always a gentle man with a smile on his face that would light up a room no matter what his mood might have been. He left such a lasting impression on me that when my daughter started her female cycle I only trusted him to treat her. Dr. Stanley diagnosed me with polycistic syndrome and was watching my daughter for the same signs. We are also from Ridgecrest and would enjoy our trips to Bakersfield just to see him because we knew he had only the best intentions for us in mind.
His presence leaves a void that cannot be filled. Thank you Mrs. Stanley and family for sharing Dr. Stanley with us. To help with this time of grief and sorrow always remember that there are only blessings and never losses.
Sincerely,
Patricia "Trish" Modlinski
Ridgecrest, CA
Dr. Stanley delivered my second son in 1986. I have a picture of Dr. Stanley holding Marc at our post delivery visit... Dr. Stanley did a great job helping me with a high risk delivery. I had a previous Caesarian and was attempting a vaginal birth. After pushing for four hours with Dr. Stanley at my side, we finally had to have a Caesarian. (Dr. Stanley had to stay at the hospital the entire time I was in labor)
Dr. Stanley never gave up and gave me excellent advice and care throughout my labor and Caesarian delivery. Marc was born healthy and everything was fine thanks to Dr. Stanley's care and skill. Marc is now 21 years old.
My prayers are for Dr. Stanley’s family and especially his children. May God bless them and may they know Him as their Heavenly Father.
Jolene (Ruth) Forzetting, mother of four
Sing to God, sing praises to His name;
Lift up a song for Him who rides through the deserts,
Whose name is the LORD, and exult before Him.
A father of the fatherless and a judge for the widows,
Is God in His holy habitation. Psalm 68:4-5
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction so that we will be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For just as the sufferings of Christ are ours in abundance, so also our comfort is abundant through Christ. But if we are afflicted, it is for your comfort and salvation; or if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which is effective in the patient enduring of the same sufferings which we also suffer; and our hope for you is firmly grounded, knowing that as you are sharers of our sufferings, so also you are sharers of our comfort.
I Corinthians 1:3-7
Dr. Stanley was a rare man. Having him as my "primary care" physician was not only a blessing, but a privilege. He was the kindest, most compassionate, truly sincere and brilliant medical professional I have ever encountered. He always had a warm greeting and smile and sometimes a great joke or story to share - I was amazed, from day one, how completely comfortable he always made me feel. Dr. Stanley oversaw all of my health needs, occasionally referring me to "specialists" as he saw fit. Then he would "follow up" at my next visit with him to discuss any new protocol prescribed by another Dr. He always knew exactly what was going on with my health. Dr. Stanley not only cared for me with his vast medical knowledge and superb surgical skils, he also cared for me like a friend - never too busy to respond to an Email, always taking his time with an exam, answering my endless questions with patience and candor. His "bedside manner" was a gift that could never be taught or learned in school, it was simply Bill Stanley. My heart and prayers are with Kimber and the children he loved so much. Like you, I will miss him always.
Sincerely,
Julia Barrett-Watts
Bakersfield, CA
My what a shock! I understood Dr. Stanley was a fitness person & worked out on his lunch hour. My condolences to Kimber (my torture lady - from electrolisis)& your children. I first met Dr. Stanley in 1987, 3 mo's preg & I wanted to come home to CA. A nurse asked me, which Dr do you want, Rbrt Redford or Superman? I chose Superman & he was, had super hero powers saving lives & making a difference in so many ways everyday. Nicole turns 20this Sunday. She used to be on his baby board long long ago, but he's delivered so many babies there's not enough room for them all. Most of the time I didn't have ins but he always made a way so I could pay. He was our only Dr. for about 15 yrs. 2005 I got ins, Kaiser temp until I could switch to PPO ins but Breast Cancer came 1st. & I couldn't switch back yet. I missed the trust of having him as our Dr. He was my surgeon a couple of times also, sometimes I would just call in for advice from him. As so many people said, he always had a smile & took the time & was present in the moment with you, he had a rare talent for listening & was easy going, & kind. I'm sure when you say "World's Best Dad", he was but he was also "World's Best Dr." too.
Respectfully,
Carrie Johnson & Nicole Miller
Bill,
I am so glad to have met you.
You had such a great sense of humor.
You will be missed by your family, friends, patients, workmates.
Kimber and family my deapest thoughts are with you at this time. It was just eight weeks ago that I lost my beloved Jill just as suddenly. I was pleasantly suprised when I received a call from Dr. Stanley to say that when Jill had visited him just days before that she was her usually spirted and lively self. That showed me that he was not just a good doctor but a thoughtful and caring person. It meant alot to our family that he took the time to call and remember Jill. During the days and weeks ahead know that he will forever be in your heart and in the spirit of your children. God bless each of you. Ted Davis, Danielle Davis, Lathen
Thank you for giving me this opportunity to express my condolences to your family. My husband and I are deeply greatful for all that Dr. Stanley did for us. We now have a family of three beautiful children that would not have been possible without his expertise, guidance, skill and patience.
After 3 years of no luck, Dr. Stanley figured out a way for me to get pregnant. His skill as a surgeon and his kind demeanor truly helped to create my family.
I would like his family to know, especially his children, that your husband and dad really made a difference in this world and my family's life.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart. He will be deeply missed, but NEVER FORGOTTEN.
I met Dr. Stanley some years ago when I worked in the recovery room. I remember he ALWAYS had a smile on his face or a funny joke to tell. He was one of our "favorite" docs. He was compassionate, kind and very easy going. Dr. Stanley could always cheer me up if I was having a rough day. I looked forward to seeing him and taking care of his patients. He was an amazing person and a great surgeon. I remember he talked endlessly about how much he loved his wife and kids and how much they all enjoyed traveling to the central coast. He will be greatly missed by all who knew him. My heart goes out to his family....he was loved by many.
Laura
I met Dr. Stanley in 1989, when my family and I moved to Bakersfield. He has been my Dr ever since. He was the best. His bedside manner was wonderful and he always made me smile. My thoughts and prayers are with Kimber, his kids, Paula, Patty, and Marge. Dr. Stanley you will truly be missed. God Bless you.
Jill Adams
Bakersfield
I met Bill and Kimber around 17 years ago when we all ran with the Hash House Harriers. Bill was the one with the bright colored running shorts and fanny-pack around his waist. The pack carried his pager in case he needed to leave the group to deliver a baby or tend to a patient; which happened several times. Bill could lag behind to talk to someone but when it was time to find the running trail he could bolt to the front with ease. He always seemed to be smiling and was great fun to be around. I think the thing that strikes me the most about him was how unpretentious and down-to-earth he was. A rare quality for someone so accomplished. My thoughts are with you and the kids, Kimber. I know you will always miss him dearly. He loved you so much. On-On, Bill.
I worked for Dr Stanley in the early 80's when he and I were both new to Bakersfield. To this day, that job was my absolute favorite, and one I never dreaded going to! Bill was the nicest boss I have ever had, and was so FUN to work with and be around. He treated me and my family like his family, and included us in many adventures...swimming, skiing and boating.
Leaving that job and the Bakersfield area was hard, as I knew I would never have another job or boss like him! Each day as his employee and friend, and patient, was truly a joy! Though I only knew Eric and Jonathan, my thoughts and prayers are with all his children and with Kimber. I'll continue to cherish the memories....God Bless you all! Lindy (Rumburg) Wiens, RN, Hillsboro Kansas
When my husband was reading the Sunday newspaper he suddenly blurted out in dismay, "Our Dr. passed away!" Of course I was totally confused not knowing who he was referring to since neither one of us have regular Doctor. My husband clarified that it was Dr. Stanley, who was our absolute most favorite Doctor that delivered our first and second babies. My husband went to every appointment with me and we both loved chatting with Dr. Stanley. He had such a great personality and made 'our' pregnancies a whole lot of fun. Not only did he affect my life, by the way my husband reacted with the sad news and called him "our" doctor, Dr. Stanley obviously touched his life, as well.
One of my deliveries was in the middle of the night. I just BARELY made it to Mercy SW in the nick of time and within a matter of minutes, Dr. Stanely arrived sporting his pajamas, slippers and the BIGGEST grin. I'll never forget the moment he wisked into the room, ready for action. We got such a kick out of that!! We were SOOO disappointed when we had to find a different delivery doctor after Dr. Stanley retired from delivering. I have had two more children since then and am expecting another in September. I have NEVER bonded with any of the other doctors that I have tried after his retirement and the whole pregnancy/delivery thing just isn't the same. It is simply not as fun and exciting without Dr. Stanley. He was something else! So kind, gentle, humble, pleasant,classy, sincere, professional, funny and unique. Definatley, one of a kind!
Our deepest sorrow goes to his family. He expressed to us during many of our chit-chats how much his family meant to him.
As we look back at our 'baby' books/pictures and see his triumphant, smiling face as he is holding up our NEW babies (still connected by the umbilical cords), we will cherish that spectacular moment even more. We were truly blessed to have him in our lives for that period time. Now he is lighting up heaven even more, I am certain.
We will all miss him dearly and once again, our deepest sympathy to his beloved family.
Wendy and Larry Montanio
Jack Montanio (7)
Melody- Eve Montanio (5)
I was very sad to hear of the recent death of Dr. Stanley. He delivered my two children, who are now 24 and 22 years old. He meant alot to me. He was suach a kind Doctor, and was right there with me during my deliveries. He will be greatly missed. My prayers are with his family.
Sherry R. Harbison
Bakersfield, CA
We were so sad to hear of the loss of Dr. Stanley. In 1984, we lost our first daughter at birth. Dr. Stanley's compassionate and friendly nature helped us get through our loss. He took extra precautions to make sure everything went well when we were expecting our next child. He delivered our next two daughters and we too have pictures of him holding them shortly after their births. They are now 22 and 20 years old, and we thank him everyday for them. He was a good friend, doctor, and all around great person. Our prayers go out to his family. We will miss his smile and his great sense of humor. The world has lost a truly great man.
Toy and Pam Magness
Bakersfield, Ca.
I can remember the very first time I met Dr. Stanley. I was having a lot of problems. I was 20 and afraid. I was sitting on the exam table in that wonderful exam gown when he walked in. I thought to myself " Who is he, what is he doing here where is the Doctor!" He was much younger that I expected. He introduced himself to me, was very kind and caring. My fear went away within seconds. He was my doctor from that moment on. That was 22 years ago.
I went through a lot those first 12 years. A lot of surgeries. He did all the work of course :) He was there with me every step of the way. He always had a positive attitude. Even when he would tell me something I did not want to hear, he had a way of making it alright. He not only healed me medically, he helped me mentally too.
I trusted him with my life. Not only mine, but the life of my younger sister, Paulette Engle. She was his patient for 18 years.
Dr. Stanley had a charm about him. Always kind, laughing, friendly and caring. He would call me personally a lot of times to answer a question or check up on me after surgeries. When I was in the office, he always took his time, he was never rushed. We would talk about what was happening in my life and in his. He loved Kimber and the kids so much. You could see his eyes light up when he would talk about them.
My heart ached and I cried when I heard about his passing. I will miss his hugs, his smiles, his laugh and our talks. To me, Dr. Stanley was the Worlds Best Doctor and my friend. I am proud to say that he was my Doctor. Thank you Dr. Stanley for everything you have done for me and my family. I will miss you and I will never forget you.
Chelle Austin
Bakersfield, Ca.
Dr. Stanley was such a gentle, wonderful doctor. I loved how he referred to us, patients, as "my ladies". He performed two surgeries on me in recent years and was very patient and caring. He was the first doctor my daughter saw and she would drive from Long Beach for appt. We will miss him. Our condolences and prayers to wife and children.
Laura
Frazier
It is now 6 in the am and today is the day we will all come together to celebrate our awesome friend and Doctor.I look out my window and the sun is just starting to shine. I know God planned this day just for Bill to be a beautiful day for Him and all of us.I promised Kimber I would say something at the church or on this amazing blog. So Kimber here goes...
I am so amazed how so many people have told of Bill's kindness, compassion and the way he made us all feel so important. He took so much time with all of us. Like he didn't have anything more important than to spent as much time as WE needed when we were in his exam room on those wonderful exam tables !!!
I met Bill about 30 years ago. My first thoughts of him when he walked in the room was: he's so cute! Kinda reminded me of a Jerry Lewis kind of guy.. His eyes shined and his smile lit up the room.And those glasses. Over the years he always had the coolest and funniest glasses. And the way he dressed. He looked like a model from GQ magazine.And I KNOW he was very proud of it !!!
On my first visit I was very scared because of some childhood experiences.He sat me in his office an talked to me for over 2 hrs. He understood my apprehension and for the first time in my life I really felt safe.Everything went ok with the exam.He was so thoughtful and patient and would tell he
everything he was doing and asked several times if I was doing alright.That day we instantly became friends. He called me several times to make sure I was ok. And I could honestly for the first time say yes...
There were so many different Bill's I got to know and love.Today I would like to share with you the Bill Stanley I knew and loved.
Dr.Stanley was more than just a Dr to me.There are several words that come instantly to mine,DR..friend, crazy man, geek & nerdy, funny, an amazing husband to his "Princess" Kimber.A dad anyone would be excited and blessed to have.His face would shine when he would talk about his family.It was an amazing thing to see.It sounds like from the blog that alot of people saw this special side of him..Especially the way he made us ALL feel important and special.He was so truthful & spiritual in such a quiet and gentle way. He was so in touch with his emotional side & was comfortable with that amazing quality.He could almost read your mind at times.It was an amazing gift he had.As a DR. the most important thing that comes to my mind is "He didn't just treat your parts" he was genuinely concerned about your whole being. He cared deeply about your family and especially how we were doing emotionally. He would give you his insight and wisdom. I cherish that the most because I think he saved alot of people from alot of heartache, kid problems, you name it and I'm sure someone out there confided in him and he took the time to give advise or help you. If he didn't know an answer for healing your parts or your personal stuff he would research the hell out of it and try to find an answer or a way to just help.I know for a fact that he would spend hours finding the best and newest thing, newest research to help any patient or friend he didn't have an answer for.Sometimes there were no answers, sometimes he had to tell us things we didn't want to hear,he told us gently and with genuine caring.You just had to look into his eyes and see the love and compassion he had. I'll never forget those eyes ,so full of love yet sometimes filled with such sadness when he couldn't find an answer for your problem.You knew he would NEVER stop trying to find a way to help. He never gave up on you...
There is so much more that I could say so I'll end with this.
Bill knew he had a condition with his heart.I think he probably knew the risks and even perhaps that he could die from it.But he still allowed himself to follow his passion and he lived his life to the fullest. He believed love was the answer to all the ills of life and he shared it with all of us special ones. His family was most important to him..What a Gift from God his family has recieved.Know that He will always be around you he will always be in your heart.I'd like to end with a poem I found many years ago.Last night I found it stuffed in my bible.It's called
ONE MORE DAY
"I am a Father"
We persist like an echo
Even after the sound is gone...
And when do you hear an echo?
When it's quiet...
And when it's quiet ,you will be
able to hear me too...
I'll always be RIGHT here in your heart...
Bill, I will never stop loving and will never forget you.You are in a special place inside my heart.I know I'll hear you again.When it's quiet. I Know I will hear the echo!!!! So when we are missing our dear friend Bill,stop & be still and quiet.You'll never know when you'll hear an echo...
WE love you Kimber..And kids don't ever forget how much your Dad loved and cherished you...Thanks for this opportunity to share..Kimber know that there are so many people here who love you.If you need anything you know where we are...
Love, Nancy
Kimber, I had gotten back from a small getaway to see and hear of your loss. I am so sorry, and want you to know you are in our prayers. I also want you to know I have always thought you were one of the nicest ladies I have ever known, your kids will need your strength and love. I wish there was something more I could say or do the most I can do is say we love you and if you need anything email me sheldon@acreativegroup.com
I first went to Dr. Stanley more than 15 years ago, looking for relief from surgery related problems. He was patient and compassionate; working with me to slowly overcome those problems. Since then, he became my primary physician, directing me to one of his colleagues whenever it was appropriate. Visiting his office was like visiting family. He was both wise and caring, often sharing kind words after the untimely death of my beloved husband, at age 47. I send prayers of love and strength to Kinber, his children, and to his entire family. I know you will feel a gigantic loss. Our community, also, loses one of it's most capable and caring physicians. Thank you, Dr. Stanley.Chere.
I did not want the opportunity to pass to tell everyone about my love for Dr. Stanley. I have known him for 20 years and feel so blessed to have worked for him for the last 10 years. I started as front office help but when Patti left I assumed her position. Patti and Dr. had worked together for many years and I had big shoes to fill. He made me feel comfortable and was always patient with me and soon I knew what everyone else did, he was a great and caring Dr. and friend. Not only was he my employer, he was my personal doctor. I never thought about seeing anyone else. How do I express how much I will miss him? I did leave his office in December of 2007 but it was the hardest, saddest decision I have had to make. He understood my reasons for leaving and supported my decision. Dr. Stanley had many interests but his priorities were his family and his patients. I called him often in the middle of the night to give him messages from patients and hospitals and he was instantly awake and ready with answers or he would make the call back himself. I just wanted you all to know that the man you met in the office was genuine and he cared for all his patients. I, like all of you feel lost without his guidance. My family will always remember him at my 30th anniversary party, Susan's wedding and numerous birthday parties. I know I am rambling on but when I write something I then remember something else I would like to say.
I miss all of his patients and want you to know we will maintain the paulakpt@yahoo.com email address if you want to contact us.
Paula
MY MEMORIES OF BILL STANLEY
MY NAME IS CINDY, AND I WOULD LIKE TO BEGIN BY THANKING KIMBER, AND ALL OF THE FAMILY, FOR ALLOWING US TO BE HERE TODAY, AND TO BE ABLE TO HONOR THIS INCREDIBLE MAN.
I HAVE CHERISHED MEMORIES OF 'WILLIAM STANLEY, M.D.', MY DOCTOR, ‘BILL' MY FRIEND, AND EVERYONE’S ‘SUPERMAN’
I MET DR. STANLEY AT LEAST 26 YEARS AGO, AND HE’S BEEN MY PHYSICIAN EVER SINCE. WHEN I FIRST MET HIM, HE LOOKED AS HANDSOME AS CLARK KENT, AND THROUGHOUT THE YEARS, SHOWED ME THE STRENGTH AND CAPABILITY OF ‘SUPERMAN’.
HE HAD BEEN WITH ME EVERY STEP OF THE WAY, GUIDING & PROTECTING ME THROUGH MEDICAL FEARS AND CONCERNS, & SURGERIES THAT I NEEDED TO HAVE.
I HAVE ALWAYS HAD THE UTMOST OF TRUST & CONFIDENCE IN HIM, KNOWING IN MY HEART, HE WOULD ALWAYS ACT IN MY BEST INTEREST.
I ALWAYS HELD HIM IN VERY HIGH ESTEEM, AND FORTUNATELY, TOOK THE OPPORTUNITIES TO LET HIM KNOW HOW I EXPERIENCED HIM.
AS A PHYSICIAN, HE GAVE OF HIMSELF IN EVERY WAY POSSIBLE, AND TRULY SERVED AS A ROLE MODEL IN HIS PROFESSION.
HE ALWAYS GAVE ME AS MUCH TIME AS I NEEDED, TO TALK WITH HIM. HE WAS A WONDERFUL LISTENER.
HE ALWAYS OFFERED SUPPORT, GUIDANCE, AND PERSPECTIVE; ALWAYS ALLOWING ME TO FEEL RESPECTED AS HIS PATIENT, AND ENCOURAGED BY WHATEVER SITUATION MIGHT HAVE AROSE.
AS A NURSE, I ADMIRED HIS KNOWLEDGE AND HIS NEVER-ENDING QUEST FOR OPTIONS & ANSWERS.
IT WAS SO OBVIOUS TO ME, THAT HE ENJOYED WHAT HE DID, AND HAD AN INCREDIBLE PASSION FOR HIS WORK, AND A TRUE COMMITMENT TO HIS PATIENTS.
WHAT I ADMIRED MOST ABOUT DR. STANLEY, WAS HIS ABILITY TO BE PROFESSIONAL & SERIOUS WHEN HE NEEDED TO BE, AND AT THE SAME TIME, ALLOWED HIMSELF TO BE VULNERABLE AS A HUMAN BEING, NOT BEING SHY ABOUT HIS THOUGHTS AND EMOTIONS. I ADMIRED HIS INTEGRITY & HUMILITY.
I WAS CONVINCED, THAT THERE WASN'T A TOPIC THAT HE COULDN'T CONVERSE ABOUT.
HIS SMILE & HIS SENSE OF HUMOR WERE CONTAGIOUS. I COULDN'T HELP, BUT FEEL CARED FOR, AND VERY AMUSED AT LIFE, WHEN I WAS IN HIS PRESENCE.
I CAN ONLY HOPE THAT I WAS ABLE TO BRING JOY INTO HIS LIFE, AS HE HAD IN MINE. IT'S HARD TO PUT INTO WORDS, HOW MUCH I WILL MISS THIS MAN.
I CAN SAY, THAT I CONSIDER MYSELF, ONE OF THE 'LUCKY ONES' TO HAVE HAD THE OPPORTUNITY AND THE HONOR, TO HAVE HAD HIM IN MY LIFE, AS LONG AS I DID.
MY HUSBAND, ALAN, ACCOMPANIED ME TO MANY VISITS WITH DR. STANLEY. HE ALWAYS SHOWED ALAN SO MUCH RESPECT, NOT ONLY AS MY HUSBAND, BUT AS SOMEONE WHO WOULD READILY PARTICIPATE IN MY CARE AND DECISION MAKING.
ALAN HAS TOLD ME ON SO MANY OCCASIONS, HOW MUCH HE ADMIRED DR. STANLEY AND HOW GRATEFUL HE FELT TO HAVE HIM IN OUR LIVES. I KNOW HE WILL MISS HIM A LOT.
ON BOTH A SERIOUS AND HUMOROUS NOTE: I HAVE BEEN WONDERING- HOW AM I GOING TO GET THROUGH MENOPAUSE WITHOUT THIS MAN IN MY LIFE? I KNOW MY HUSBAND, IS ALSO WONDERING HOW HE WILL GET THROUGH 'MY' MENOPAUSE, AS WELL.
WE WERE JUST BEGINNING TO HAVE THOSE TALKS ABOUT HORMONE REPLACEMENT THERAPY. I KNEW THERE WOULD BE MANY 'GO-AROUNDS' REGARDING THIS TOPIC.
BEING HE HAS SEEN ME THROUGH SO MANY PHASES AND TRANSITIONS IN MY LIFE, I KNOW IN MY HEART, HE LITERALLY KNEW ME BOTH 'INSIDE AND OUT.'
EVEN THOUGH, HE IS NOT WITH ME PHYSICALLY, IN PERSON, I WILL CONTINUE TO ALLOW HIS WISDOM TO GUIDE ME, BECAUSE HE WILL ALWAYS HAVE A SPECIAL PLACE IN MY THOUGHTS, & IN MY HEART.
I WANT TO SAY TO KIMBER, HIS CHILDREN, AND ALL OF HIS FAMILY- "ALWAYS CHERISH THE LOVE & MEMORIES THAT 'BILL' HAS GIVEN TO YOU. I PRAY THAT IN TIME, THESE MEMORIES WILL BRING YOU A LOT OF WARMTH & COMFORT."
I WOULD LIKE TO THANK DR. STANLEY'S VERY DEDICATED OFFICE STAFF, PATTY, PAULA, AND MARGE, FOR ALWAYS BEING THERE FOR ME. I ALWAYS FELT, THAT ALL OF YOU WERE AN EXTENSION OF HIS LOVE, PROFESSIONALISM, WARMTH AND COMPASSION.
I AM CERTAIN, THAT HE WILL FOREVER, CONTINUE TO IMPACT & INFLUENCE SO MANY OF HIS PATIENTS, FRIENDS & COLLEAGUES AS A 'SHINING' EXAMPLE, OR IN HIS WORDS, 'THE GOLD STANDARD.'
THANK YOU BILL, FOR TOUCHING MY LIFE IN SO MANY WONDERFUL WAYS, & FOR THE PRIVILEGE OF BEING ABLE TO KNOW YOU. I WILL ALWAYS MISS YOU.
Dr. Stanley was my doctor for 10years, he was the kindest, most compassionate person I've ever met. I came to him with overwhelming problems and he wasted no time at all resolving them, what a doctor! He delivered my first grandson and my daughter thought the world of him. I don't know if I will ever find another gynocologist who I'll feel as comfortable with. I am going to miss him terribly. My deepest sympathy go out to his wife, children, family, and friends as I know this must be very difficult for you. I pray for God's love comforts them this time.
Sincerely,
P.Scovil
Bakersfield, CA
Iam here in Dr Stanleys officepacking up the final items. His desk is no longer here and it is now that it becomes so real that he is gone forever. It was a joy to come into work with dr stanley, he was so caring and devoted to his patients and that ressonated throughtout the office. I will miss all his patients and working with Paula, Patti, Hiedi, and Beck. He has left us with many good memories. DR Stanley wore many hats for me. He was my dr of course, delivered my son, Mitch. My employer and teacher, but my deepest loss ls that he was the father of my grandchildren,THE BEST FATHER, a loving and pacient husband to my daughter kimber, mama lama. He was the most increadable son-in-law a mother could ask for. My heart breaks for Kimber,Parker,Talcy,and Kip and I pray that God gives them the strenght and guides them along as they make this hard journey in life ahead. For all the lives he touched there will be a deep void and loss. I respected Bill so much as a DR and a person and he will forever be in my heart and my memories. I miss you DR. Stanley, Bill, Billie, and friend. love, the granma lama ---Marge ===== I also will maintain my e-mail add. margekpt@yahoo.com
I have been seeing Dr.Stanley for 22 years and when i heard of his passing i was in shock.Dr.Stanley was such a wonderful doctorand man.He had a great bedside manner,you could tell him women problems that you were having and he acted like he knew exactly what you were going through.Dr Stanley delivered both of my kids as well as my sisters kids.When my daught started going to him i had asked Dr. Stanley what is was like to see patient that he delivered,he said it makes him feel old,although he looks like he did 22 years ago.Dr Stanley will be missed by me and my whole family.My thought and prayers go out to his family and staff.thank you for sharing him with us...cindy
First and foremost I want to talk about "my friend" Bill. I have known Bill and Kimber for over 19 years. My husband has been friends with Kimber since high school. Bill was a blast! I remember years ago rollerblading with Bill and Kimber. HA! Bill was in his spandex workout pants and a tank top looking pretty hot. Bill really did have a killer body. Really Bill and Kimber looked like Ken and Barbie. But he was about as good at stopping on rollerblades as I was. NOT! He would crash into a car, lightpost or whatever was closest. Just like me. Not Kimber, she would twirl around on those things and stop like no problem. What's the big deal? :)
I remember all of the CRAZY parties at their Stockdale Estates home. God those were great times.
Over the years I gave Bill many haircuts in the utility room in that house.
Okay, driving around in the PARTY VAN! You know, the 4 wheel drive one. It had the loudest stereo!!!
Bill was such a kid at heart. He was all about having a great time and did!
I remember summers with Bill's oldest kids there. He loved his kids so much. He would absolutely light up when he talked about them.
And such beautiful kids.
In more recent years our kids attended the same elementary school. I always made sure I found Bill and Kimber at Open House's and Fund Raisers. He never missed a Jog-a-Thon day or a Musical Performance. Both Bill and Kimber were always there supporting their kids and their school. Bill was a very dedicated and proud Dad.
He loved technology and toys. He always had the latest greatest pager, cell phone, computers and gadgets. Can you say "computer geek"!
Okay, now on to Bill my "Doctor".
When he passed away, I felt pretty lost. Bill has been my primary, gyno, and ob Doctor. He pretty much took care of everything from top to bottom.
Kimber and I laugh and say that Bill spoke "Chick". He just "got" women. He understood how we thought. When he asked a question, he actually listened to the answer. He heard you. He genuinely cared about us. He knew the importance of taking time for myself and always reminded me to do that.
The more I read the blog, the more I realize he was pretty amazing for a lot of people. I had total confidence in Bill and referred over the years many of my friends to him.
My husband and I had several years of difficulty getting pregnant. When we finally got pregnant, we miscarried. It was pretty awful. Bill was there every step of the way including doing a surgery to take care of me afterwards. We got pregnant again and had a healthy baby girl. But not before getting really sick during the pregnancy with gallbladder disease. I had to have gallbladder surgery 8 months pregnant. He was with me during surgery, just in case he was needed for the baby. After I delivered her, I had some epidural complications. It was Bill who called and checked on me. It was Bill who had me come in so he could personally make sure everything was healing properly.
Really Bill knew all of my secrets. Always had good advice. And a caring shoulder to lean on. I used to make him laugh because I would never used medical terms to describe what was going on with me. I just kind of blurted it out. He would crack up.
He delivered both of my girls now 9 and 6. He brought into this world the 2 most precious children I could imagine. He helped me get pregnant when I couldn't and he helped keep me pregnant when my body couldn't. For that I am eternally grateful.
He has helped me through deliveries, post pardom depression and many other day to day issues.
Over the last probably 5 years Bill tried talking me into weight loss surgery. I finally did it in Oct. I have lost 60 lbs. since then. I hate that I can't continue to share that with Bill. He was my biggest cheerleader. I knew that Bill wanted that for me. He knew it would change my life. I loved walking into the office and surprising them when they hadn't seen me in a few weeks.
Kimber is one of my favorite people. I have always been able to say anything to her, there isn't any subject we couldn't talk about. It may be 2 weeks or 2 months since we last talked, but when we do, we just pick right up where we left off. I treasure you Kimber.
Kimber, Parker, Talcy and Kip. Hold onto your memories. And what a gift all of the pictures Bill took. You all have always been so good to take lots of pictures.
In my search for a new Doctor I think I'm going to have to lower my standards a little. I can't imagine anyone who can fill Dr. Bill's shoes.
But most of all, I grieve because I miss my friend. I'm sad for my friend Kimber and her beautiful kids. And I'm so sorry for Erik, John and Lauren's loss.
Bill was an intelligent, warm, caring, fun man. I will miss him dearly.
BROOKE BENDER if you see this please e-mail me. I don't know if you remember me, but I did you and your Mom's nails for years. I would love to catch up with you.
Amy Church jachurch@sbcglobal.net
Lots of Love,
Amy Church
Since I moved to CO in 1997, I have kept in contact with my friend & former workout buddy. Sometimes, 6 or 9 mths would pass between e-mails, maybe even a year, but I would usually shoot him an e-mail, giving him the latest and greatest news of my life in CO. He would sometimes send a quick 2 or 3 liner back, with something like, "good to hear from you". The last few times I have written, however, I never heard back. I didn't think much of it because it wasn't that unusual (sometimes I'd hear back from him, sometimes I wouldn't). Recently, however, I haven't been able to get him out of my head. The feeling was so strong today that I found myself on the internet to confirm his address, thinking that perhaps he had changed his address. Oh my!! You can imagine my shock. I am just devastated, three years later. Kimber, my heart goes out to your beautiful family. My goodness, I remember when you two were just dating----I'm just flooded with memories, too much to tell. We all just loved to sweat together, didn't we?! :-) Bill was such a good person. Now I know why I couldn't stop thinking about him--an angel was with me today.
I love you Kimber and sincerely hope you're doing well. XXOO
Vickie Miller Parker
formerly, Vickie Roland
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